What is the 9th step?

What is the 9th step?

Step Nine. “Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.”

What does Step 9 mean in AA?

about making amends
The 9th step in AA is about making amends. You must do so regardless of the consequences. Amends could end a relationship. You could go to jail, face a significant fine, or suffer other serious consequences.

How do you do the 9th Step amends?

What Does Making Amends Mean?

1. Make a list of the harm or damage you have caused.
2. Be willing to repair it.
3. Admit you’re wrongdoings.
4. Figure out the best way to repair the damage.
5. Be patient about gaining the other person’s trust back.

What is the spiritual purpose of the ninth step?

Step 9 is another one of the 12 steps, that initially appears most difficult, but the rewards of putting this principle into practice can be immense. The spiritual principle involved is that of forgiveness, not only from others but forgiveness of self, which can bring healing to both parties.

What is step 9 in the Big Book?

Step Nine – Amends except when to do so would injure them or others. ”

How do you write a 9th step?

Making Your 9th Step Amends

1. List out all the wrongs you did (example: I lied to you, I cheated on you, I stole your TV, I stole $500 from you, I did drugs in your house).
2. Say, “It was wrong of me to do those things.”
3. Ask, “Is there anything I can do to begin to make this right?”

How do I make amends to someone?

Some ways to create an authentic apology:

1. Be humble and don’t assume anything.
2. Accept responsibility for actions and what those actions brought.
3. Admit fault.
4. Change behavior and demonstrate that healing has started.
5. Make an effort to rebuild trust.

Where are the 9th step promises in the Big Book?

The ninth step promises can be found through pages 83-84 in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. “If we are painstaking about this phase of our development we will be amazed before we are halfway through. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness.

How do I amend my relationship?

You just need to show true remorse for what you’ve done.

1. Lower Your Pride.
2. Avoid Making Excuses.
3. Listen to Their Side of the Story.
4. Put Yourself in the Other Person’s Shoes.
5. Ask How You Can Make Things Right.
6. Give The Other Person Time and Space to Process Your Apology.
7. Give Them Time to Heal.
8. Keep to Your Purpose.

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